A friendly, practical guide to enjoying live music together — without dampening anyone’s night.
Why Etiquette Still Matters
Live music is a shared space: artists perform, venues host, crews graft, and audiences create the atmosphere. Good etiquette is not about stuffiness; it is simply a compact that allows everyone to hear, see, and feel the music at its best. In small rooms, a single conversation can be louder than the quietest song; in large arenas, a thoughtless crowd surge can injure people. A little consideration makes the magic possible.
Before the Show: Preparation
- Tickets and times: Check your ticket and the venue’s site for door times, set times, and age restrictions. Arrive early enough to find your spot without pushing.
- What to bring: Photo ID if required, earplugs (highly recommended), a small bag, and a refillable water bottle if permitted. Avoid backpacks in crowded rooms.
- Dress code: Wear what you like, but think practical footwear and layers. Big hats and large headwear block views.
- Accessibility planning: If you or a friend need step-free access, seating, or a quiet space, contact the venue in advance. Many will accommodate if asked ahead of time.
During the Show: Best Behaviour
- See something, say something (kindly): If someone is pushed or spilled on, check they are all right. Alert staff if needed; do not escalate.
- Mind the view: Taller folks and people with big hair or hats — consider standing slightly to the side. If you lift someone onto shoulders, make sure there is space and you are not blocking others.
- Volume of conversation: Whisper during quiet songs or step back to the bar. Constant chatter belongs outside the room, not in front of the stage.
- Mosh pits & dancing: Participate only if you understand the etiquette: pick people up when they fall, no elbows, no targeting. Consent applies on the dancefloor too.
- Respect the crew: Bar staff, security, and engineers keep the night running. A “thank you” travels further than you think.
Phones, Photos, and Filming
We live in a phone-forward world, but screens can spoil sightlines and the vibe. As a rule of thumb:
- Follow the artist’s request: If the show is phone-free, respect it. Some artists allow photos for the first three songs only.
- Record briefly, not constantly: Capture a 10–20 second clip, then enjoy the moment. Do not hold your screen high for entire songs.
- Flash off, brightness down: Flashes blind performers and distract the audience. Lower your screen brightness.
- Tag kindly: If you share, credit the artist and venue. Avoid posting unflattering clips of strangers.
Accessibility & Inclusion
Inclusive gigs are better for everyone. Consider:
- Space and comfort: Offer your spot to someone who visibly needs it more. Keep aisles and ramps clear.
- Sensory considerations: Loud volumes and strobes affect some attendees. Earplugs help; warn neighbours if you are using a camera with a bright screen.
- Language and respect: Avoid slurs, sexist chants, or jokes at others’ expense. The music community thrives on welcome, not gatekeeping.
For Artists: Setting Expectations
Artists can shape audience behaviour before the first chord. A few small steps help enormously:
- Publish a simple policy: Add a sentence to your event pages about filming, phone use, and pit etiquette. Clarity prevents conflict.
- Work with the venue: Agree on signage, strobe warnings, and accessibility notes. Make sure front-of-house staff know your requests.
- Signal during the set: A quick, friendly reminder about phones or crowd safety can reset the room without killing the mood.
- Thank the crew publicly: Model the respect you wish to see. Your fans will follow your lead.
After the Show: Support the Scene
- Merch & music: If you can, buy directly from the artist. It is the most effective way to support their work.
- Leave a review: A short, specific review helps artists and venues alike. Mention sound quality, crowd vibe, and accessibility.
- Travel kindly: Be considerate to neighbours and public transport staff on the way home. Keep noise to a civil level.
Quick Glossary
- FOH
- Front of House — the staff working with the audience (bar, door, merch).
- Backline
- Shared onstage gear such as amps and drums provided by the venue or headliner.
- House left / right
- Directions from the audience’s perspective, useful when finding friends or exits.
Printable Checklist
- ✔ Check set times and ID requirements
- ✔ Bring earplugs and a small bag
- ✔ Plan access needs with the venue
- ✔ Keep conversations low during quiet songs
- ✔ Record short clips only; flash off
- ✔ Offer help if someone is in difficulty
- ✔ Buy merch or music if you can
- ✔ Leave a concise, courteous review